Boys Will Be Men
Boys Will Be Men: 8 Lessons For The Lost American Male is a book about the daily work of becoming the man you are meant to be. Each chapter explores the choices and moments that define a man’s character, the trials that Vince and other men face, and the ways they emerge as better versions of themselves. Vince helps men learn how to love our families, lead through pressure, handle failure, and pursue purpose when life feels unclear.
Vince draws from years of counseling, fatherhood, and faith to reveal how growth is not found in grand gestures but in small, consistent acts of honesty and courage.
Through real stories and practical reflection, Boys Will Be Men: 8 Lessons For The Lost American Male invites readers to step into a process of growth and evolution: stronger in conviction, clearer in purpose, and more grounded in who they are and who they are becoming.
A Message from Vince
When I started writing Boys Will Be Men, it wasn’t from a place of having all the answers. It came from years of sitting across from men and young men who were tired, searching, and ready for change and while simultaneously coming to the realization that I was one of them.
This book is for anyone who feels the tension between who they are and who they’re meant to be. It’s for the man who wants to lead better, love deeper, and live with more intention. You won’t find quick fixes here. What you will find are real stories, honest appraisals of failure and redirection, and practical steps for doing the kind of work that leads to enduring change.
My hope is that Boys Will Be Men: 8 Lessons For The Lost American Male, both challenges you and encourages you. That it helps you see growth not as a single moment, but as a progression- a daily decision to show up, face yourself, and do the next right thing.
Thank you for being willing to do the work. The world needs more men who are becoming sharper.
— Vince Benevento
Meet the Voice Behind
Boys Will Be Men
Vince is a counselor, speaker, and father of boys who has spent more than two decades walking alongside men through the real work of growth. From young adults finding their direction to fathers and professionals seeking balance and purpose, he has helped thousands of men navigate seasons of uncertainty, pressure, and change. His approach is grounded in honesty, faith, and practical wisdom—meeting men where they are and guiding them toward who they are meant to become.
What You’ll Take Away from Boys Will Be Men
Clarity in Who You Are
Growth begins with awareness. Sharper helps you slow down, take inventory, and see yourself honestly, your strengths, struggles, and the habits that shape your life. Real change starts when you understand who you are and what truly drives you.
Strength Through Challenge
Every man faces pressure, setbacks, and moments of doubt. Vince shows how those challenges can become the very tools that refine you. Instead of running from difficulty, Sharper teaches you how to use it to build resilience, wisdom, and purpose.
Intentional Habits
Lasting transformation happens in the small, consistent choices of everyday life. Through practical reflection and real stories, Sharper gives you a framework for building habits that strengthen your relationships, deepen your faith, and sharpen your character.